Listen first, speak after.



If you keep reacting to things without taking the time to process your thoughts first then you will miss the important lessons intertwined into the experience.  It is important to pay attention and listen carefully before reacting.  When you are in a gathering, don’t be in a hurry to pour down everything you have in mind.  Listen to the opinions of others, learn from their experiences.  When you pour out everything you have on your mind, what’s left is an empty vessel.  Stay focus and learn from others.  Lack of focus is very detrimental to progression and growth.

Our mind is created to process thoughts, and these thoughts can manifest in several different forms.  They may manifest in our spoken words or actions.  When our mind’s processed thoughts manifest into spoken words, wisdom is required to be able to speak these words in a manner that we ourselves may be open to learning.  One instance where people miss this wisdom when they are trying to pour out their minds in words is in arguments but there are other instances.  When we are too eager to pour our minds in words of expression, we tend not to derive anything in return. We listen to others not just because we are listening, but because we are looking for loopholes to buttress the points we have already conceived in our minds.  Listening is more than just refraining to talk, listening gives us the advantage to tap into the message of the speaker and if at all we still need to talk, listening gives us enough leverage to place our thoughts on and then brilliantly express those refined thoughts.

I have come to understand that even in academic classes and other knowledge impact making classes, to be able to derive understanding, one must listen.  It is after, when full understanding has been achieved, that grey areas need inquiry of clarification.  Similar to this is our everyday lives. It is crucial to listen carefully before reacting so as not to be carried away by one’s ideas which may at times not hold water.  The real definition of knowledge is the acquisition of different ideas and opinions as a way of empowering one’s self and this won’t be achieved if at most times we do most of the talking without listening.  It is when you listen that you process how to react, the next thing to say, whether you need to continue with the discussion, whether that information is meant for you and so on.  Even at instances where we assume to know what the speaker is about to say, the wisdom in listening enables us to wait until such a speaker finishes before we consider speaking in return.  One thing listening does is that it helps and gives the listener the opportunity to study and observe every move, facial expression and countenance of the speaker such that the listener knows from the expression of the speaker when a little something goes wrong.  It is also very easy to make vital mistakes as a speaker than a listener.

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