Whether you’ve found your ideal plot, designed your dream house and got the planning permission, or, maybe you are just starting to consider your options, the process of designing and building is a challenge.
There are several different types of foundations for a home and other things to consider such as the soil on the land, raw materials, and financial commitment needed to complete the project. One important factor is that the foundation must be strong enough to hold the entire house.
A strong foundation is as important as the finished building. So also is the personal foundation as vital when pursuing a more successful lifestyle. I have not met or known of anyone who sets up a building project, commits to it until completion, and then destroys the entire building including the foundation at the end of the project. Unless there is some kind of logic to this action, the whole process would be pointless and wasteful.
A house built can only stand strong if the foundation which it is built on matches the strength of the house.
Your personal foundation is underpinned by the core values and lifestyle on which your whole existence is built upon. If that foundation is not strong, it is easy to sway from one side to another and be blown away by the winds in difficult times. Most of us are eager to build, to start living the life of our dreams, and there is always the temptation to neglect the details of a strong personal foundation.
There are five areas that are fundamental for a strong personal foundation:
Ø Integrity/honesty: Honesty and integrity go hand-in-hand, but in today’s world, it seems that people have grown so lax that both these traits have flown out of the window. Integrity means being a “whole” person and “adhering to moral and ethical principles”. Honesty is a direct reflection of your inner character. Your actions are a reflection of your faith, and reflecting the truth in your actions is a part of being a good witness. Are you able keep to your word and tell the truth even in challenging situations? Most importantly, do you tell yourself the truth or do you sweep the obvious under the carpet hoping it will eventually go away? Keeping promises to yourself allows you to bring your focus inwards. It is also a foundation for building healthy relationships. When you practice this with consistence, then this principle will become woven into the fabric of your existence. And it can teach others about your core values and your standard of living.
Ø Self-discipline: Imagine what you can accomplish by following through on your plans no matter what happens. Without self-discipline, it is hard to experience the manifestation of your vision. Developing self-discipline helps to combat laziness, procrastination, idleness, and unfruitful existence.
Ø Attitude of service: To be successful and live a purposeful life, an attitude of service is essential. I am firm believer in the law of sowing and reaping: “Whatsoever a man soweth, so shall he reap.” Success in life is proportional to the number of people you are willing to serve. There is a definite relationship between the act of serving and rewards life have packaged for you to receive. You have to look towards enriching others before you can gain something. Attitude of service equals total giving of yourself, total service to mankind, and absolute unselfishness. You live for others and others for you, and therefore unity, harmony, and prosperity will abound.
Ø Attitude of gratitude: Demonstrating gratitude is a reminder that whatever position you find yourself in, there is hope, and it is your faith in God that truly strengthens you when you are faced with adversity. Demonstrate your gratitude through your compassion and tolerance towards others. Gratitude strengthens your faith in God and other people. Make a commitment to show your gratitude to others when an opportunity presents itself.
Ø Self-respect/Personal boundaries: Personal boundaries are the lines we draw around ourselves to keep us from being manipulated, used, or violated by others. If you do not have personal boundaries, it will be hard to understand and respect the boundaries of other people. Learning to set personal boundaries is a way of communicating to others that we have self-respect and self-worth, and will not allow others to define us. To establish healthy relationships there must be personal boundaries. This allows us to define who we are and acknowledge that we are all unique individuals with distinct emotions, needs, and preferences. We can preserve our integrity because we can honestly communicate our expectations and limits to others. You must take responsibility for how you allow others to treat you. Learn to say no. You don’t have to be a people pleaser and put yourself at a disadvantage trying to accommodate everyone. Do not be afraid to tell others when you need emotional and physical space. Trust and believe in yourself especially in your God-given ability to make your own choices.